Most of the people, find it very easy getting off alcohol and other drugs and it's not the hardest part for them to overcome an addiction.
It's having to live without the drugs and the alcohol forever that is the challenge. Having to face the pain you've been avoiding is just one of the many reasons why this is an issue. Abandonment, child abuse, the loss of a loved one, or being lesbian or gay in a homophobic society may be the cause of this pain. The issues can be much harder when combined with the additional problem of recovering from alcohol and drugs while these issues aren't easy to handle at the best of times. When a pattern of abusing has been created, regardless of the causes that spurred the substance abuse, you might be unfamiliar with other ways to live your life, especially to overcome traumatic situations. Dealing with the issues that hide behind the addiction using methods such as problem-solving skills and coping methods may feel like something unattainable.
You will probably experience many difficult emotions after you quit your substance abuse, especially if you did used drugs or alcohol for a really long time. If you weren't ready for it, aren't sure what to do or what is going on, or if you think that being sober always feels like this, then it can be extremely overwhelming for you (and your family). This is one of the reason why many people fall back into their addiction. If the description given above sound familiar to you, it will be a good idea for you to get some support. To help you feel less overwhelmed, you should also try to find ways of dealing with these overwhelming emotions that lie underneath the surface.
The withdrawal causes others to slump into a deep depression. You may have to come back down to reality if the drugs or alcohol you were using were the ones keeping you positive.
Since you likely expected that life would become greater, this can not only feel forceful, but also demoralising. You should however not see this as the end of things. It will.
It is important to find a reason to be hopeful at this point since you're only starting to process the information you're receiving. Hearing from others who have gone through a similar thing and managed to come out victorious can help. You need to know what to expect and what to look forward to in the moment and also in the next few days and weeks. There are many things that will change as soon as you regain your confidence and learn to love and respect yourself once again.
People react differently to the various approaches used during the addiction recovery process and it's important to find one that works.
Most people will benefit more in the beginning from an approach to coping that is in tune with what they actually face.
This indicates that you should be finding practical methods to:
By using the realistic approach, honesty can be fostered and this is an important part of recovery. By being realistic you are making an effort to look at what you can do and not what sounds like a good idea. You can always set a high bar for yourself but do not set yourself up for failure. You may find yourself lying or feeling ashamed by not attaining certain goals which is why setting objectives that can't be met is a bad idea. A realistic approach may be about progressively bringing down your drug and alcohol consumption while resolving some past issues before stopping. Alternatively, you can simply decide to quit. The right road to go is the one that suits you the most.
You might need to do the longer term or deeper therapeutic work so that you may stay alcohol or drug-free.
This can include dealing with emotional, sexual, physical or ritual abuse; feelings of a great loss, chronic disease or death; being left as a child; feeling embarrassed or unsure about your sexual orientation; being brought up in an alcoholic or similarly dysfunctional family, etc. For some people, facing the present living situation, like an abusive or absent partner may also be involved in it.
The aid of a psychiatrist or some other professional privately or in a group setting may be quite important in dealing with these problems. While without doing this deeper work some people remain alcohol and drug-free, but others can't. Many people usually find out that their initial alcohol or drug addiction stemmed from other issues they were not aware of. Looking at these issues closely can prove helpful and really do need to depend on alcohol or drugs.
Similar to what happens when quitting drugs and alcohol, overcoming painful circumstances will often hurt before it can get better. Long-term benefits, like being satisfied with yourself, living your life to the full and being free, happy and more alive, will make your dedication worth it even if you initially feel like you are not getting better.
It is rather tempting to make the comment that there is only one way to get off alcohol and drugs. Some people prefer to believe that there is a definitive answer or solution which can work for everyone. But it's not as simple as that. Many people have become alcohol and drug-free (and others who greatly reduced consumption) by different ways. Ultimately, you should trust your instinct, deep inside of you. If something feels right there is no harm in trying it out. A life without addiction might be on that very path.