Some people think that they can protect the alcoholic from him/herself while others think that they can tell what the alcoholic will do next, always with good intentions.
Many sayings are popular with alcoholics getting rid of booze. Some are very deep others have to be taken as they are. Alcoholics anonymous refers to this phenomenon as "the insanity of our disease." The statement is very literal. I can talk to you about the active alcoholic but you won't get it because understanding it means removing lucidity, the consciousness and motivation to absorb information from errors, the capacity to accept evident behavioural schemes and most of the times, using common sense.
Alcoholism has up to 100 different types. This is the typical person hooked on booze but still being active which hasn't detached him from the endearing aspects of life. Overtime, they will come to lose these things as such is the nature of addiction and Jail, institution or death; the rule of three, is what awaits them in the long term. The world of an alcoholic is distorted and they don't act, believe or even see themselves as a normal person would.
They are often accustomed to living life around the extremes and believe they should be getting all or nothing. There is no mildness, no central view point, no agreement, and no right and wrong for their way of thinking. They fail to see things clearly because their life is based on failure to realize how dangerous they are to themselves.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. This is often a subconscious behaviour.
They are oblivious of the fact that they are deceiving themselves.
Alcoholics use some expressions that makes easy lying in a way that sounds like it's true. The favourite word they use is "probably." It indicates the purpose that truly isn't there. An alcohol addict that says he will most likely act in certain manner will in most case not do it. When they use words like these, a way of getting around things is provided - a breaking away plan in which no limit is given and no commitment made. The alcoholic loves words and sentences such as probably, perhaps, might, can, must, I'd love to, I wish to, I should do. There is no meaning in these terms. They normally end up not being carried out even though they sound good. Everything about the alcoholic including their relationships, social interaction, progress, and their entire life are negatively affected by alcoholism.
It is like looking down a tunnel only being able to see in one direction - this is the view that some alcoholics have. They have to focus on something specific because although they want to pay attention to several things they practically can't.
Doing more things at once signifies big confusion for an alcoholic. The active alcoholic cannot concentrate. They will focus on the one thing in their life that is currently failing and keep their focus on it, usually going overboard. Other aspects of their lives will be failing as they keep their attention on the first thing and before long, they'll simply be trying to attend to the problem that has them most worried at any given moment much like "firehouse management". Although many alcoholics can keep this up for a long time, the downward trend that follows is unavoidable.
Alcoholics will tend to hide how often and how much they drink when they start consuming more alcohol. You will be factually informed that they only took three glasses of wine. However they haven't said that every glass was a 16 ounce tumbler. It isn't just about the consumption that gets covered; it is also the negative changes alcohol causes in their lives. Counselors say that alcoholics evolve "an external locus of control." As time passes by everything become someone else's fault. They will blame their bosses if their work starts to suffer. Their spouses would be unreasonable in case their marriage is facing difficult moments. They term their kids unappreciative when their failure to perform their parental duties is the cause.
Every event or incident becomes a reason to have a drink.Terrible situation at work / partner / children are to be blamed if they end up having a drink.
An extreme sense of entitlement is not unusual in alcoholics. They will act irresponsibly, selfishly and immaturely and their excuse will be that the difficulties in their lives give them permission to behave this way. To notice their behavior is to confirm a view that the world must have an obligation for them. The active alcoholic wallows in self-pity by concluding that they are a victim of life. They give less from their side while they ask for more from everybody else.
The quickest route adopted by alcoholics who can cause self-destruction are the words "screw it." This basically states that as everything is going adversely, hence them drinking shouldn't be an issue. When alcoholics decide to give up on their habit, we encourage them to notice that "it" is, in reality "me." The concept of "It's not worth it" reveals this. The alcohol addict is constantly living in self-denial although they are aware of reality. They act like everything is normal and request that the ones close to them see things from their point of view. Everything increasingly turns into exteriority and less into practicality. "Family Portrait", a song by Pink, properly elaborates this. In our family portrait, we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Though the alcoholics may not have been in the act of swindling people before, they develop the skills to con people with time. Their level of manipulation will enable them to get what they want no matter how hard. If they want you to leave, they will not just start a fight with you but will also make you believe that it is your fault. They manifest a bit or no liability at all. Their addiction has forced them into dishonesty and deceit. However, irrespective of the mentioned faults, each alcoholic will have one area where they are so good in and from where they derive the human pride to live. We have considered a big amount of alcohol addicts that have amazing work ethics since being a great worker is the one thing they are aware of they are great at.
Alcoholism is a sickness that slowly takes everything away from the addict The question about whether addiction to alcohol is an ailment of its own or not has been coming to us. The fact is that it is both. As a disease alcoholism is unique because it cannot just hide from you, but it also lies to its carrier about the presence it has. The addict has an only option concerning all the other sicknesses. It is common to notice an alcoholic goes into remission at any time like numerous others do. So as to show themselves and others that they are in fact not dependent on alcohol, an alcoholic can go for some time without taking any alcohol but this can only go on for so long.
It takes more than sobriety to recover from alcohol addiction. Recovery from alcoholism involves changing every part of a person's life. People are referred to as "dry drunk" when they stop drinking alone, and it means that they just stopped drinking, but the sickness of alcoholism is still there, and only a few can maintain this stoppage for a longer period. In my specialized point of view, actual recovery is just made probable by the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. The benefit of the AA program cannot be overemphasized and they could be improved with several innovations. The support of loved ones is important for people who are recovering. Many alcoholics don't escape their addiction due to the enabling influence of their friends and families which prevents them from seeing the real consequences of their addiction.